To see in the dark

The morning air is crisp and cool and the harvest moon is bright in my window. It’s autumn – the last days of September. And while the media would like to remind me that this is the time to buy new sweaters and swap my home brewed coffee for a pumpkin spice everything, I’m being called to notice that we … Read More

High vibes are not enough

You think you need to heal the whole world. I know this, because I am that way too. You can’t listen to the news because the problems seem to big. When you hear about the world’s problems, you don’t just see how it affects you and where you might be responsible, you see how it affects your family, your community, plants, animals, the whole world – … Read More

Honor your anger – it is a tool

So, sensitive one – did you find your anger? Maybe you were able to uncover it, remove it from the debris of lies meant to keep you small. Maybe you found snippets, tidbits, little bites of the fiery goodness – just enough to get a taste, not enough to get your fix. And maybe – maybe – your anger has … Read More

Where is your anger?

There’s this way that we, as hsps – especially those of us socialized as women – have lost touch with our anger. We’ve learned to bury it, stuff it down, swallow it, sit on it. So that when things happen that should ignite anger, instead we find something else (something much more dangerous, in my opinion) taking its place – … Read More

Thoughts on motherhood and guilt

As I experience motherhood as a highly sensitive person, as an introvert, intuitive and empath, there are some things I’ve noticed. About how the fierceness of love pushes me, and pulls me, like the ebb and flow of a tide. I’m building my understanding of what it means to feel the kind of love that has only come to me from having a … Read More

An invitation: When what’s happening in the world is uncomfortable, stand there anyway

There are serious things happening in the US (and world) right now. Serious things. Sad things. Oppressive things. Dangerous things. Hateful things. The neo-Nazi marches and violence that happened in Charlottesville last week have broken my heart on many levels. That we have White Supremacists marching to maintain the status quo, when that status quo oppresses and marginalizes large groups of people. That … Read More

What resonates is all we have

Life has felt like it’s been speeding up for me lately. My son, now nine months old, is speed crawling around our tiny living room and standing up on everything. One handed. Just over the weekend, he gave himself a fat lip and two bonks on the head. Before you call any authorities, know that I was standing right there … Read More

How do you show up even when carrying a heavy emotional load?

I’m sitting at a coffee shop with my computer – for the first time since the birth of my son – munching on a chocolate covered biscotti dumped in a dry cappuccino (you know, healthy things) and trying to drum up the spark of something to write to you. Some lesson, some glimmer of wisdom, some nugget of truth. Something. But the truth … Read More

Be an act of social rebellion

Most of you know that I had a baby last November. The thing that happens when you have a baby is that you gain some weight. Apparently, another body inside your body actually weighs something (like seven pounds), and then needs to be supported by extra fluids and fats. If that isn’t enough, your boobs swell to some enormous size, … Read More

Ingredients for Empathy

You cannot intellectualize empathy. You, of course, know this as a highly sensitive person. Because if you could intellectualize empathy, you could also intellectualize yourself out of empathy. Which, you know from experience, is not really possible. Empathy, by definition, is the ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and feel their feelings. Empathy requires feeling. It requires sensation. Which is … Read More

Guest Post: The benefits of massage for highly sensitive children

Today I’m bringing you a beefy article from massage therapist and infant massage instructor, Jack Duroc-Danner. Jack and I began talking about the benefits of massage on the highly sensitive nervous system, and they suggested I learn infant massage to work on my son. Working with Jack gave me valuable skills for reducing stress and nervous system tension in my … Read More